Who can we help?
Have you experienced deep and lasting emotional feelings of sadness and longing to return to the past long after loss?
Has the physical feelings of loss led to health concerns, and substance misuse?
Everyone experiences grief and loss differently, and the magnitude of the pain can be effected by issues in the environment, personality characteristics, and your underlying beliefs. Often people come to therapy to learn what grief is normal and wonder if others feel the same during times of intense loss. They may seek to feel more in control of their lives and want to learn to adapt and come to a new normal following their loss.
How we help……
Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) for grief and loss is based on the idea that our first thoughts in a situation effect how we understand and perceive our control after changes in our lives. Thoughts about death, life, and the future can be explored safely in the therapy room while we learn details about the process of grieving so we are prepared for what it will take to recover.
Since loss includes many changes, practical issues and plans for the future may be closely looked at so we can help recognize what has been lost and how to navigate our lives, even if we feel alone. We can learn to adapt and begin to try new ways of doing things to help feel more in control and less vulnerable with collaborative, therapeutic support.
The expectations you have about life may play a role in beliefs about recovery from grief. We often have unrealistic ideas that we can return to work and recover very quickly after major loss, and this may lead to disappointment and a feeling they are not normal. We can support you to know that you are normal, and many take much more time to come to terms with loss. Those who have had previous loss or trauma may find that this new event has triggered unresolved issues that can be explored in the safety of our counselling relationship. Recovering from grief with support will have some ups and downs, as we learn to deal with the triggers and decrease symptoms but the hard work will be worth it as you begin to feel more hope for the future and redefine what it will mean for you. Therapy can help because in telling your story and expressing your feelings you will begin to make sense of the event, and focus on a new future.